Sapphic companionship, sensual dominance, and erotic care

My work as a dominatrix, companion, and erotic practitioner is wide-ranging, but its centre is simple: I create encounters in which people feel seen, held, desired, and safely invited into parts of themselves they may not often have permission to express..

My deepest desire is to nourish your wellbeing: physically, emotionally, spiritually, and erotically. I believe a deeper connection with the erotic can be a path to strength, freedom, and wholeness.

Some come to me for dominance. Some come for touch. Some come for companionship, ritual, softness, surrender, punishment, gender exploration, or the rare pleasure of being received without judgement.

My work is bespoke. There is no fixed script, no standard dynamic, and no assumption that you must already know exactly what you want. Part of my joy is discovering the interior landscape of the person before me: what opens them, what steadies them, what excites them, what makes them feel more fully themselves.

Companionship for Women

For women, submission may be an entry, a starting spark, but is very rarely the deeper purpose. Often, what is desired is being held: not only physically, but emotionally, erotically, and socially. To be recognised, seen, listened to, understood, and cared for.

You may want uncomplicated intimacy. A dinner for two. A theatre date. A private evening of touch. A weekend away. A week somewhere beautiful. You may want to be scooped up, pampered, listened to, bathed, desired, or simply accompanied by someone who knows how to match your energy without adding complication to your life.

As a sapphic companion and full-service tantric escort, I can inhabit the masculine or the feminine, softness or structure, service or command. Power dynamics are possible, never required. With lovers I know well, I am also open to switching.

This work is for the woman who wants to feel cared for without being managed, desired without being consumed, and free to explore without having to explain herself.

Sensual Tantric Surrender with Rope

For women, this is a guided, floor-based rope journey centred on sensation, breath, trust, and the sensual body.

It is not about elaborate suspension or performance. It is about the way rope can hold the body, quiet the mind, and invite surrender. Breathwork, touch, stillness, pressure, restraint, and slow erotic attention may all become part of the journey.

This is one of my favourite ways to work with those who want to explore surrender without harshness.

I am also often asked to tie for photoshoots, and if you wish to do this, I work with a number of sensitive photographers who can capture these moments for you.

Spanking and Sensual Impact

There are few things that offer more capacity for play than a firm, attentive, wide-ranging sensual spanking.

Spanking can be playful, erotic, corrective, nurturing, humiliating, tender, ritualised, or cathartic. It can be paired with praise, scolding, restraint, aftercare, or slow sensual touch. Done well, it is not merely impact. It is rhythm, attention, communication, and control.

Corporal Punishment and Impact Play

My training as a somatic practitioner and energy worker shapes the way I approach impact play. I love whips in particular, but I am also skilled with paddles, canes, floggers, snakes, and other tools.

The contrast between gentle sensual touch and the sting of the lash can allow the body to go deeper and stay longer. For some, impact is punishment. For others, it is release, focus, worship, or a way to feel exquisitely present.

This remains a personal passion and speciality.

Age Play and Little Space

I am Mommy in many aspects of my life, and receiving littles is one of my favourite ways to play.

Little space can be tender, structured, corrective, playful, nurturing, strict, or deeply calming. I enjoy creating the conditions in which a little can explore and play, feeling safe, watched, adored, and guided.

My approach to this beautiful form of self-expression is “lifestyle” and complete. We do not perform here. Although some may call this a fetish, in my arms, this is real. With me, little space is not a performance. It is a real and carefully held state. This allows for depth and a more enduring dynamic.

I am especially protective of consensual adult age play because it is so often misunderstood. There is nothing shameful in adults seeking tenderness, regression, structure, comfort, discipline, or care within clear, negotiated boundaries. I see you, I respect you, and I will hold that part of you with discretion and care.

An equipped nursery in my play space in Italy is on the horizon.

Gender Exploration

I love working with those who are curious about gender, expression, embodiment, and the erotic charge of crossing or softening the lines they have been taught to obey.

For men, this work must always be grounded in respect for women. I am not interested in misogynistic caricature or humiliation that depends on contempt for femininity. I am interested in genuine exploration: what opens, what frightens, what liberates, what becomes possible when gender is treated as a living field rather than a prison.

I work with transgender, agender, and intersex people of all persuasions. Navigating gender and sex in a world which is fundamentally hostile to “other” is not a burden to carry alone. Opening the path, helping you settle in your body, and finding yourself in the mix and the courage to stand tall, is undoubtedly one of the most fulfilling aspects of what I do.

Men Who Wish to See Me

Men are welcome in my practice, but not in every frame.

For intimate companion or escort-style bookings, you will need to be an extraordinary man: respectful, generous, emotionally intelligent, submissive or reverent in spirit, and already oriented toward the power, dignity, and pleasure of women.

I have no interest in guiding a man through intimacy if he is not yet able to meet me with the depth and respect that such work requires.

For men, I am often better suited to strict dominance, corporal punishment, high protocol, female-led dynamics, worship, CFNM, and the rigorous pleasure of being shaped, corrected, and brought into service. These forms of interaction are gateways to a more enlightened state. The world needs more good men. Showing men how to be such men is important, and I am here for that.

Rates

All pricing is bespoke.  Engagements begin at £1,000. Longer encounters, travel, companionship, and bespoke rituals are quoted individually.

Pricing reflects preparation, discretion, experience, and the bespoke nature of the time we create together.

I also price with awareness that women and FLINTA clients do not move through the world with the same economic power as men. Where appropriate, this is reflected with care and discretion. Introduce yourself and let’s explore your needs, desires, and work together to find a path to a successful dynamic.

Welcome, Access, and Boundaries

I work only within full, enthusiastic, informed consent. Clear communication before and during our time together allows us to play freely, safely, and without misunderstanding.

Disabled, chronically ill, and neurodivergent clients are warmly welcome. Please tell me about any access needs, sensory preferences, mobility considerations, communication style, or pacing that would help you feel safe and comfortable. I will accommodate where I can, with care, discretion, and respect.

By “women”, I mean women and FLINTA clients: women, lesbians, intersex, non-binary, trans, and agender people. I welcome adult clients of all ages, bodies, backgrounds, races, sexualities, and creeds.

I do not work with intoxicated people. I want you fully present.

I will not work with animals, minors, or even discuss such practices. I do not offer medical fetish, blood play, scat, or race play.

I do not shame desire. I rejoice in sexuality and welcome people of different bodies, backgrounds, genders, sexualities, and life experiences. Some of my most beautiful encounters have been with those who have struggled to find intimacy elsewhere.

You are welcome to write to me with what you are seeking. You do not need to have the perfect words yet. Begin with what you know. I will take it from there.

An Invitation to Discovery

Whether you come seeking gentle healing, erotic awakening, or the profound stillness that lives on the other side of surrender, you will not find shame here.

You may, however, find rather more of yourself.

Step into my parlour. Inquire directly to discuss bespoke private sessions and companion bookings.

About Valentina Dellagravis

If you have never booked a companion before, you might wonder if we are even real.  My presence online is proof.

I am Valentina Dellagravis, a Milan, Berlin and London-based sapphic companion, muse, somatic practitioner and erotic professional who loves a fly-me-to-you date. I am an achingly tall 6’4” trans dominatrix and dominant companion, and all kinks are welcome.

My work brings together discretion, social fluency, sensual touch, power exchange and intelligent companionship to create bespoke encounters for women, FLINTA clients and select men seeking surrender, structure, intimacy and that something more.

• Diary of a Sex Witch: My longer, more personal writing on sexuality, feminism, power, sex work, kink and the erotic life — read me on Substack
• Shorter Essays & Cultural Commentary: Follow my accessible essays and myth-busting pieces. Follow me on Medium
• Aetas Deae: A women-centred project whose retreats, workshops, and private circles create space for women and FLINTA people to soften, play, explore desire, and encounter themselves beyond performance, duty, and apology. Find out more at aetasdeae.org.
• Valentina is also a member of Kinky London Escorts, a collective of London’s finest independent companions.
• Find her on her socials: BlueSky | Twitter/X | Instagram | Mastodon | Pinterest
• While never expected, what better way to introduce yourself than by sending me a gift. You can please me on my Throne.

Inquiries regarding private sessions, somatic dynamic work, or retreat spaces should be made thoughtfully through the screening process on my primary website. Ill-considered overtures will be ignored.