Valentina Dellagravis ◆ Milan, London & FMTY Elegant and Playful Companion ◆ Philosopher
It’s okay to be curious. Can you imagine what might feel right about it? Let’s lean into that. To not have to be anything, to not have to perform, but to surrender, to the feelings inside, to your body, to allow yourself to be seen, heard, understood.
I am not a therapist. And yet, our intimacy will lead us to open any door with greater ease and depth than talk alone ever achieves. The body is our terrain, your body, your pleasure. I am guide, muse, but you are still the architect of your own surrender.
You don’t need to be straight or gay, young or old, or look any particular way to explore, to play. If you wish, my hands and body will listen to yours, and together we will discover what is ready to emerge. The discoveries may lead to practices in your life which increase your harmony with the world around you.
Our shadows, our kinks, our desires are the things which allow us to connect to our depths, the home of the Divine in each one of us. To come to me is to commit to explore the hidden parts, to let go, to surrender out of lust for a more lived life.
A Life Without Shame
A life without shame is not an abstract idea to me. It is how I have chosen to live: openly intersex and trans, unapologetic about my sexuality, and equally unashamed of the work I do. Our erotic lives deserve the same seriousness, curiosity and freedom we give to every other part of being human. My approach to the erotic is one of reverence, for ecstasy is the language of the Divine.
I explore these topics in two different places. On this site, I write more playfully and personally about desire, intimacy and what it might be like to meet me. On Diary of a Sex Witch, my Substack, I take a longer and more scholarly view, placing sex work, feminism, erotic power, gender and intimacy within a broader intellectual frame.
Time to Explore?
Come and walk with me dear one. Let us explore your own majesty.
If you are intrigued, I encourage you to peruse my site, get to know me, and think about yourself. You will see practices and activities which may entice or simply be for someone else. If you don’t see described what you feel would resonate with you, I am just an email away, and happy to explore your desires.
When you are ready, begin quietly. A thoughtful introduction is enough.