The Work
What we find erotic can become the pathway to our own best selves.
This practice is rooted in a belief that what we find erotic can become the pathway to our own best selves. Nothing motivates like sexual energy. We are able to move heaven and earth for others, for ourselves, when it is also arousing. Doing “the work” becomes not only palatable but desirable.
No, I am not a therapist, and we are not setting out to fix or change you. But if our explorations help you find purpose, ground you in your own power, and encourage you to take better care of yourself, then we have succeeded at taking our shadows and turning them into our strength.
Nothing makes me happier than when someone who books me makes positive changes in their lives because of the work we do together.
People most often see me in one of three primary ways.
These are not boxes.
A companion, a date, someone to travel with
The first is as a companion, a date, someone to travel with. As someone who has lived most of her life on the road, there are many cities and places I know well, and am happy to share. I also love to explore. How we weave a dynamic into daily life becomes a delicious dance between two people.
Tantric practitioner, bodyworker, and somatic therapist
The second way is as a tantric practitioner, bodyworker, and somatic therapist. An exploration of touch is one of the most popular ways people find to spend time with me. My practice is rooted in a philosophy of “listening” hands. I have spent many years in formal training and practice, having logged thousands of hours with hundreds of people. This is an area that is my magic, according to many.
Power dynamics and kink
The third way is an exploration of power dynamics and kink. The feelings that any of us have in relation to desires and practices, fantasies, or life experience can often leave us with shame, anxiety, tension, trauma, but also profound joy. Whatever it is that fires you up, you will find in me a judgement-free place to explore. Women and couples come to me in exploration of her dominance. Men work with me on both their submission and how to navigate the stigma and judgement that can come with that.
I love social dates
I love social dates, particularly for people who are new to me, or for the less experienced. This allows us to get to know one another in a pressure-free setting. If my words pique your curiosity, I encourage you to reach out and introduce yourself.
As an intersex woman, I am vanishingly rare.
It is okay to wonder what it is like to be with someone like me. Curiosity is healthy. I am comfortable with the masculine even if I live in the feminine.
While the three modes described above are distinct, most people seek a blend. My approach to impact play, for example, brings in pressure points, tantric touch, and the somatic listening that comes with my work as a therapist. Same with rope. And I love to incorporate gentle play into our social interactions. We explore what lies beneath.
Some companions serve up a menu of kinks. There are very few that I am not comfortable with, and how we play is something to establish in our early contact. I am very much a fan of exploring kinks which speak to deeper vulnerability, especially those which are not strictly verbal such as age play and pet play. A deeper reading of my journal will show a good deal of thought and intention which goes into sessions, and a taste of my range.
A word for the solo woman or couple
A word for the solo woman or couple. It is for you that I am here. Women are conditioned to place their own pleasure as secondary. The idea of booking a companion is alien, intimidating, filled with unknowns, and the last thing she needs is complications and entanglements. I am here to be present, to see whatever you wish to reveal or what emerges. There is no need to do or be anything, no pressure to perform.
As women we are conditioned away from the sublime experiences of erotic pleasure. Expressing our desire and needs, experiencing lingering sensual touch, is one which need not be scary or shameful. My way of being is to nurture. This essence lies at the root of why I do what I do. There is no rush.
Female pleasure reveals itself slowly, with clear boundaries.