A guide from a bisexual escort and dominatrix on respectful contact, booking etiquette, and the foundations of high-end companionship and domination
I am a bisexual escort and dominatrix working across Europe and the world. Many of you reach out without understanding the etiquette of how to approach. Here is a clear lesson in how to engage, book, and behave respectfully, so deeper companionship and matriarchal guidance can actually move beyond fantasy to reality.
Why I’m Writing to You
My dear boys, I am taking this opportunity to write to you, to all of you, as there are simply too many of you to deal with one-by-one. If I had the time, and it was only one of you, I am not sure that flirting with you through online channels is what I would choose to do. Just because I don’t reply, doesn’t mean I don’t think you’re cute, or would want to see you.
What My Work Actually Is
But let’s be super clear. I sell my time for a living. My personal life is already full. This is not a personals ad. I am a bisexul escort and dominatrix. I am here for one reason, to provide a service, and that service requires payment.
How Men and Women Approach Me Differently
Please also note that it is only boys that I write to in this vein, as I never am called to do so with women. A woman who likes me, who wants me, wants to see me, just goes ahead and books me. She reads the rules, she knows that I’m a whore, and knows that this is precisely the source of value I bring to her. And who ever said women were not the ones who know what they want?
Bless you ladies.
I am grateful that not one of the men lurking in my DM’s has sent me a dick pic. But I do have many pictures of your glorious bodies, some faces, and yes, you are all stunning. Really dishy. Hot. Most of you are also Italian. This is a function of algorithms and where I spend the bulk of my time.
What I Truly Care About in a Client
But boys, there is something missing here. I do this for a living. If I find you hot, then great, I find you hot. But I love a man who is not hot just as much, often more. What I care about in my relations not just with clients, but with all people, is what you are like inside. And how you treat me. How you treat the people around you.
Behaviour Matters More Than Being Attractive
For instance, you might be polite and even obsequious to me, your domme, but then turn to our waitress and are brusque, dismissive, or rude. I’m not having it. You might express disturbing political views. We will discuss those, for I am not having any form of hate or discrimination in my life. Especially not from intimate companions.
How to Behave with a Sex Worker
When you engage with a Sex Worker, you are paying her for her time, for her attention. Nothing more. That she indulges you, plays with you, in whatever way, is for her to decide. Your decision relates only to one of self-regulation, of being respectful and on your best behaviour, and deciding if you would like to ask whether you might see me again. And while you are with me, you will be visibly doing everything you can to show me that you are kind, generous, and obedient. And the more you are these things, the more I will like you. That’s a promise.
Why Respect and Value Are the Currency Here
Every now and again I do interact with some of you, mainly to direct you to my website. There, you will find the rules of engagement. I understand that seeing a companion is expensive. We are a luxury good. Accessible only to the few who can afford it.
I have had, however, clients who save up to see me. I am aware of their circumstances and of the sacrifices they make to be able to spend time with me, and I am profoundly touched by that. Over time, there may be ways to serve me that do not involve session fees, but this takes an extraordinary amount of time and trust and deepening of a relationship.
What Disrespect Looks Like in Practice
Asking for my time without paying for it, given what I do is to sell my time sends a clear message: you do not value me, you do not respect me, and you do not respect my time. This is not a great starting point. Good boys will warm me by sending me gifts through Throne or my other gifting options (links in my social media bios)…and yes, even you can buy me a coffee every day, and what a nice way to say hello.
How to Show Me You’re Serious
If you like me enough to follow me, to enjoy the glimpses of my domme life, of my body, of the things I get up to, and even fantasise about being a part of that life, it will feel even better if you go one step further and begin to do things for me. That’s how this works.
For Those Ready to Go Deeper
I am a dominatrix. People serve me. And I receive. And for the lucky few who session with me, together we work in the most extraordinary ways to make you blossom and grow as a human by harnessing the divine power of sexual energy. I am High Priestess of this art form, a Sex Witch, and I will change your life, but only if you enter my temple respectfully and appropriately.
Be like the women, boys, and approach with clarity of intent and respect.
Booking details are available on the site. Read carefully before reaching out.
An Invitation
If you are here, something in you has already responded.
This is not casual booking, and it is not for everyone. I work with people who are curious, intelligent, and willing to take responsibility for what they want.
Those who wish to work with me do not request. They present themselves.
Begin here.
About Me
Mx Valentina is a feminist dominatrix, a trans and intersex woman, whose practice centres on ethical power exchange and the conditions under which lives reorganise themselves around purpose rather than shame. Her work is selective and relational, grounded in the belief that submission is not a role to be played but an orientation that must already be present. She works only with those who understand that access is conditional and authority is not negotiated. You can find my scholarly feminist writing on Substack and lighter pieces on Medium.
