A Luxury of Connection
For the purposes of this post, I’m making several assumptions. Namely that the client in question is a good match with me. If it’s a repeat booking, which is increasingly the only kind I have time for, then it is a given. But if you are new, the assumption is that the screening and booking process will filter out incompatibilities, and that you, my dear client, will be a knowledgeable buyer.
Let’s stick with that. Buying time with an escort is potentially one of the most important purchases you make. Unquestionably a luxury, it is fleeting, rare, and dear. It also carries a whiff of scandal, making it somewhat illicit, which has a way of turning up the heat. What is hotter than a shared secret? Better still, when hidden in plain sight?
But it is also a luxury because it is the stuff of memories. Unique experiences, co-created by two lusty and cultured humans, whose respect for each other creates the very ground from which intimacy can spring. It isn’t like going to the theatre, but believe the parallels are real, because it’s live, we’re not acting, we’re connecting, and when that happens, you never forget.
“It isn’t like going to the theatre… we’re not acting, we’re connecting, and when that happens, you never forget.”
What It Means to Be a Sex Witch
As a GFE-oriented domme and provider, all the things we might do, outfits worn, fetishes explored, games played, are noise in the system compared to this truth. It is the connection which counts—everything else is simply a tool to get us there. Over time I find that the tools are less and less important, and the connection can be instant.
“Yes, I do mean that just being with me can put you in sub-space, before I even open my mouth.”
I know that most dommes aren’t intimate with their clients. Many dommes don’t allow touch. I understand that, but that isn’t me. Of course nothing is promised, but when I chose to branch out from pure domming it was to allow for a deeper energetic connection.
What does it mean to be a Sex Witch in this context? An example. When I think about my hands in a certain way, they come alive. I can feel the energy in them. You will too. To be touched without being touched. I know this is a gift, perhaps the most important, and one which I hone in all aspects of my life, not just as a Sex Worker. I am a tantrica, a reiki practioner and a somatic therapist (talk therapy through touch). That means my hands are listening to you, speaking with you, speaking with your body, not just transmitting, indeed, not transmitting at all. Conversing.
I do also have witches blood coursing through me, generational, for centuries. And whether you are atheist, agnostic, or a believer in matters spiritual, as Blaise Pascal noted in his proof of God, it is unwise to disbelieve. I know he meant a particular version of God, which is just fine. What I mine is that which is Divine. In you, in me, in life, in the Universe, across time, dimensions, everything. To be with me is to open yourself to this energy and to feel it, for it travels with me and through me.
Champagne Blood and a Spring in Your Step
And when we are touched this way, when you are, what I hope you feel is life, your own life. I want you to feel like your blood is made of champagne, that you are giddy with joy after playing with me, and that you walk away from our time together with a spring in your step, feeling good about yourself.
“I want you to feel like your blood is made of champagne.”
Dominance With Care
I do get asked to degrade people, to administer pain, and I will do it, but with care. I’ve done lots of things. Let your imagination run wild, really wild, I’ve done it. How boring, I’m not a ball buster…well, I can do that too. But really, everything for me is in service to your well-being. Intimate connection is beautiful and leaves you with an invisible tapestry around you. It is my energetic shawl, my cocoon, which stays with you. When we linger together on a social date and the intimacy is interlaced in time, in the moment, the cocoon stays with you for longer. The landscape of memory has many resting places, and over time, you will find this energetic connection from me.
A client said to me the other day—”you never raised your voice. You even asked me politely before spanking me. I’m not used to that. But I have never felt more thoroughly dominated in my life. It was beautiful.”
“You never raised your voice… But I have never felt more thoroughly dominated in my life.”
The Magic Moment
There comes a point in session where I can see the change in your eyes. Your words, your breath. When you are connected to source. Your source. And when this happens, we can really begin to play.
An Invitation
If you are here, something in you has already responded.
This is not casual booking, and it is not for everyone. I work with people who are curious, intelligent, and willing to take responsibility for what they want.
Those who wish to work with me do not request. They present themselves.
Begin here.
About Me
Mx Valentina is a feminist dominatrix, a trans and intersex woman, whose practice centres on ethical power exchange and the conditions under which lives reorganise themselves around purpose rather than shame. Her work is selective and relational, grounded in the belief that submission is not a role to be played but an orientation that must already be present. She works only with those who understand that access is conditional and authority is not negotiated. You can find my scholarly feminist writing on Substack and lighter pieces on Medium.
